More About Me 2
Jul. 14th, 2010 04:57 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
magictreehouseOk, so in this instalment I thought I'd talk more about my family. Not counting James, my immediate family are my Mum and Dad (who are both 49), my sister (16) and my brother (22). I'm very lucky to have a close family. Well, close in that I'm quite far away. But we all get on and that's the main thing. I see them quite a bit, unlike my extended family. It's funny. I've always been much closer to my Mum's family for some reason but as most of them were either dead or slightly old was always a small selection of people! My Great Aunt (Gladys, amazing) and my Grandma (Connie - also amazing) were always quite close and so we used to see them a lot on days out (usually to North Wales) and as they live(d) up the road we saw a fair bit of them so I' never missed out of extended family stuff really. My great Auntie died a few years back and my Grandma is now 96 and a shadow of her former self which is a shame as she's ace. So on my Mum's side there's only her and my Uncle who's not got a family of his own.
My Dad's side is much more complicated. He has a brother and sister. He fell out with my Uncle years ago and so I have nothing to do with that side of the family. Whereas my Aunts kids are a bit of a mix. My cousin got pregnant at 14 although things turned out ok in the end, while my other cousin is a drug dealer who's been in and out of prison. So there's a reason I don't really talk to them much. My Gradparents are divorced and funnily, because the rest of my Dad's family are, errr, more problematic, I've never been as close to my Gradma as I could have been. She's always been more consumed with helping out with the numerous kids and problems elsewhere. plus she looked after my Great-Grandma for many years as she had Alzhimer's. So because my family could look after themselves we've never really needed to get involved with the rest of them! Ha. My Grandad re-married many years back and started a second family (with the woman he had an affair with) but my Dad couldn't forgive him for many years. Things are fine though. I've got half-uncles and an aunt. I went to my half-uncle's wedding a few years back but when it came to my other half-uncle's wedding (who's younger than me weirdly) my brother and sister were invited but I wasn't! Weird but hey, I'll deal.
Because of James, who's family are much more of a unit than mine ever have been (they send cards to each other for every occassion. I'm lucky if I get a birthday card off mine - we're not card senders, ha) I've kind of got an adopted family, which suits me fine, although I hate having to go to all of these christanings. this makes things different for if and when we get married. As James' has a large family to invite whereas I have four people. It'd feel weird.
The moral of this story is that you don't need to have a big family to get by in this world and that family aren't necessarily who you are related to by blood. In many respects, blood is the only common factor I share with a fair few of my relatives!
In other news - I graduate tomorrow. I'm not enthused but hey, it's something different to do.
My Dad's side is much more complicated. He has a brother and sister. He fell out with my Uncle years ago and so I have nothing to do with that side of the family. Whereas my Aunts kids are a bit of a mix. My cousin got pregnant at 14 although things turned out ok in the end, while my other cousin is a drug dealer who's been in and out of prison. So there's a reason I don't really talk to them much. My Gradparents are divorced and funnily, because the rest of my Dad's family are, errr, more problematic, I've never been as close to my Gradma as I could have been. She's always been more consumed with helping out with the numerous kids and problems elsewhere. plus she looked after my Great-Grandma for many years as she had Alzhimer's. So because my family could look after themselves we've never really needed to get involved with the rest of them! Ha. My Grandad re-married many years back and started a second family (with the woman he had an affair with) but my Dad couldn't forgive him for many years. Things are fine though. I've got half-uncles and an aunt. I went to my half-uncle's wedding a few years back but when it came to my other half-uncle's wedding (who's younger than me weirdly) my brother and sister were invited but I wasn't! Weird but hey, I'll deal.
Because of James, who's family are much more of a unit than mine ever have been (they send cards to each other for every occassion. I'm lucky if I get a birthday card off mine - we're not card senders, ha) I've kind of got an adopted family, which suits me fine, although I hate having to go to all of these christanings. this makes things different for if and when we get married. As James' has a large family to invite whereas I have four people. It'd feel weird.
The moral of this story is that you don't need to have a big family to get by in this world and that family aren't necessarily who you are related to by blood. In many respects, blood is the only common factor I share with a fair few of my relatives!
In other news - I graduate tomorrow. I'm not enthused but hey, it's something different to do.
